Elaina Bellis is an LA based mother, art director, and major style crush. We spoke to her about her creative process, motherhood, loss, and lessons learned along the way.
How do you balance family life and work?
My work can be whenever I want it to be, that's the beauty of freelance. If the timing doesn't line up for me and my family then I just simply say no. I usually work one day a week, and the rest of the week I'm home with the girls. I only take on jobs that really inspire me (unless it's a modeling job, that's a different story).
Any practices you weave into your daily routine to keep yourself healthy and happy?
When the girls are napping I try to do a 10 minute meditation, and prepare dinner. I find cooking to be really creative and meditative.
Tell us a little about your creative process...
I'm mostly inspired by people watching! The way people move, dress, and act. That's the beauty about being human, not one person is alike. Even my identical twins! I see rhythms in people that match up, and that inspires me.
Your husband is a photographer and actually shot the images for this story with you, do the two of you collaborate often?
Yes! I love working with James. Obviously we like each other a lot, but we also inspire each other. We work really well together. He's an amazing photographer, and I have the eye to set it up! I'm also a bit more forward when it comes to letting people know what we need, he might be the nicest guy out there.
You have used your platform to share the story of your son Lincoln's stillbirth and to support other parent’s who have also experienced this loss. Why is it important to make sure open and honest conversations like this are happening?
Oh I love this question, and talking about our son!
When we went through the physical loss of Lincoln, I felt like I was in an episode of the twilight zone. I didn't know what was real anymore. I just wanted to relate to someone, or feel like we weren't alone in these feelings. When I shared on Instagram about Lincoln, thousands of women reached out about their stories and opened up to me. The beauty of it all is that they felt safe. Lincoln gave stillbirth a voice when there wasn't really one. I felt so supported through social media, and was/am still able to offer it as well!
What are some other lessons you’ve learned along the way that you could share with any new mothers reading this?
Just be kind to yourself, no one mother is perfect. Do not compare yourself or your child to anyone else. You are exactly where you need to be, and your child is getting everything he or she needs. The most important thing is love!